Sunday, March 15, 2009

Not difficult for me, but . . .

"Do you know what I have discovered is the most difficult (and yes, again, humbling) thing? To stand still and allow someone to compliment you; to give someone the chance to say what they want to say, when it makes you very uncomfortable to hear it."


  1. From the Anchoress:

    "Yes, that’s right…now you have to stand there and just take it while I thank YOU and tell you YOU’RE great. ;-)"

    Why, yes. Yes I am. Thanks for noticing.

  2. It's about the motive.
    If you've got 0 self esteem, and cannot accept a compliment, that is an area to grow.
    If you're concerned about accuracy, and make sure you "hat tip" the appropriate people, that's quite another thing.

  3. The magic of Jesus's commandment to love your neighbor as your self is in its corollary - to love yourself as you do your neighbor. There is no reason to be embarrassed by honest praise and congratulations that would not cause cringing if given to another. Of course, fulsome and dishonest praise is always unpleasant to hear, regardless of the object. It should be shunned or shut down.

    Of course that whole thing depends on how well we are living that commandment.